If you’ve got a full-fledged battle of the sexes going on at your house regarding home improvement priorities, it’s time to call a timeout. Finding common ground is the key to deciding which projects to tackle first and which can wait. You’ll both be happier and your home-improvement efforts will go more smoothly.
Talk about it. If you find yourself wanting a new energy efficient HVAC system but your spouse’s No. 1 priority is a kitchen remodel, sit down and have a conversation about it. Consider making a date out of it, meet at a favorite coffee shop or restaurant and talk things out.
Compromise. While a new heating and air conditioning unit might not be your idea of a home upgrade, think about the money that could be saved to put into the next home-improvement project. Likewise, if your idea of cooking is boiling water for pasta but your spouse is a foodie, won’t you both reap the benefits of a kitchen upgrade at the dinner table? And don’t forget, the kitchen is considered the best room in the house to add value to a home.
Make a list. Jot down your new jointly chosen projects and prioritize them. You’d be surprised how much common ground you can find.
Win-win projects. Home-improvement projects don’t have to be a power struggle between spouses. Besides the popular kitchen upgrade, which adds tangible and intangible value to a home, think about other areas that would bring value and enjoyment to both spouses. Decks, patios or other outdoor living spaces are one idea. They add value to the home and provide a special gathering place for family experiences. A major landscape project is another idea to consider. Curb appeal is typically important to both spouses. For future sales value, the property must be appealing to the eye from the street. It also provides a sense of belonging and pride in your home’s beauty. Both spouses can agree here.
Or how about a master bathroom redo? One spouse might view it as a luxury place to begin and end the day while the other sees dollar signs at resale. In the end, it’s a win-win for both partners.